June 2009 Archives
The Final Four Men, The Bachelorrette
Well, This season, can i just say that this season is…………..getting boring?
The thing about men is they just aren’t as entertaining as women. Ask me, I know. After watching the last Bachelor show religiously, I just assumed since I ardently loved Jillian I would feel the same about this seaon’s bachelorette, plus the added fact I had a friend on the show in the first two episodes made it even more enjoyable to watch (can discover who it is if you look through past columns). Well, as the men dropped off the show and the last guys have stayed I can barely keep my eyes on the screen.
This Wes guy is really so transparent, yet you can’t blame Jillian…It’s hard to find a Texan in Canada. I personally like Kipton the best, have from the moment he stepped out of the limo, of course excluding the friend I mentioned earlier.
What I really want to know is….does Jason miss Jillian and is he really happy with Mollly? Also, is Melissa going to make back to the boob-tube with another series. Gosh let’s hope so, with her abs of steel.
And Wes, If she ends up picking him, can you say heart break hotel. I hope not for JIllian Harris’s sake. Her persona and realism that comes across is so refreshing, I wish the world of dreams for her and then some.
My Advice? Pick Kipton and Move to Encinitas Jillian so we can hang out and sip red wine in the Ranch together.
Machel
CSI Miami or CSI New York?
In the last three months my fiance and I have become addicted to CSI Miami. Then came CSI New York. If you are one of these fans, you are just like us, we can’t get enough of these shows. Forget going to the movie theatre, or blockbuster. Lately, tv has such amazing dramas it’s like watching a tight 1hour movie. Think interesting plots, intriguing backgrounds and gorgeous clothes. Imagine the inside of someones organ’s then some special effects so you can really feel like you’ve seen the inside of a ‘vic’. Watch these two shows unravel murder mysteries, track DNA evidence while still looking incredibly sexy beautiful and smart all in one shot. Now throw in some hot hot Rhianna sound tracks with tropical green waters, while Horatio foils the evil doer’s plots.
If you are bored and you want to save money and you are sick of pathetic new ‘turn em’ out’ stupid movie plots, just stay home Monday’s and Wednesdays for the best entertainment you can find for free.
Now, you were to ask which I like the best? Well, originally it was CSI Miami. However, I’m now just as in love with New York crew, too.
Thanks to Emily Proctor and Elizabeth Hurley there are still gorgeous blondes on to watch on television (sorry soap beauties I never get to watch daytime dramas!).
And Danny from CSI New York?? Can you say smokin’ hot. Now that’s what I call a rugged man.
And, Jerry, you are one of the most brilliant producers to ever walk the planet.
Kudos to great shows and the ‘boob-tube’ finally worth watching again.
Machel Penn
My Bridal Shower
The thing about life is you must have fun. My Dad has always said that I was good at this. However, I actually learned from him. What’s wonderful about this short to long time here on earth is the journey of it all, the friends we make and the many chapter of different memories we take with us as our lives keep changing. I am here looking at the last ten years of my life here in San Diego and they have been so blessed. I am one of those rare women who would prefer many many girlfriends as opposed to one. I can’t get enough of meeting new and exciting individuals and because of it, I’ve been blessed with many different friendships along the way.
Kudos to all of them here. Kudos to your love and time. You have made me feel extra loved on one day I will always remember. To find the prince sometimes takes some effort, but with a little help from your girlie girls anything is possible. Ask me, I know.
And, Melissa Williams, I love you for making this day so wonderful, for hosting this event for me and for your fun beautiful spirit that makes my life a sweeter place.
With all of my love,
Machel
Michael Jackson dies at age 50…from what?
At this point you have to wonder about the odd coincidences going on. How sad and tragic Michael Jackson died suddenly before his big new world tour. Even though he was an oddity at an early age we must remember the 80′s and the early 90′s.
You don’t have to like him, but you can pay homage to his mass contribution to the music industry. Without Michael Jackson, we wouldn’t have thriller, we wouldn’t have those memories of Madonna and Michael at the top of the food chain in the 80′s.
I’ve heard through the grapevine there are whispers of how he died, which was not from a massive heart attack. I guess we will find out after the autopsy.
Michael Jackson dies today (and Farrah Faucett)
Michael Jackson died today. It’s not typically the headline you would expect and shocking to hear. How is it that life can be cut so short for some? Farrah Faucett died, too. I have been driving around with extra belongings from my life while listening to these facts echo over the radio. The clouds are gray and there is a sullen feeling hanging over me. I know that this life is short and when I hear that my favorite Pop star from the 80′s is gone before his time and Farrah, too, I begin to wonder about the synchrinicities in life, happenstance and maybe just maybe things do happen for reasons..
I remember in 1984 when Michael Jackson was hitting the airwaves with Billy Jean and Thriller. I remember that year at the Grammy Awards when he moonwalked backwards across the stage. I remembered all of those things as the news reached me at my newspaper today.
I don’t know why life is cut short for others and then others live to be 90. I don’t know why there was a man with a food sign sitting ont he corner of San Dieguito and El Camino Real with his little boy with a sign that read, “Any little bit helps.” I don’t know why there are such injustices in this world. I do know that you must pay attention to the road signs around you and you must observe the light. I do know that this life can be short and sweet and all that you have right now can be gone tomorrow. I do know great love in my heart for so many. I don’t like to hear about tragic events, yet, I think it’s important to listen and observe what’s going on in this world. It’s good to know more than your immediate things.
Michael Jackson died today. I do know that. I am in Oceanside with my family and the clouds are clinging to my spirit. They are weighing on me as I remember my own mortality. Be good, work hard, have fun and please be kind. Life could use a little more love.
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Why I Still believe in ‘Mr. Big’.
I am getting married in the month of July. I have had many different emotions about this event. I have had moments where I have wondered about the overall idea of marriage and if this is the right thing. Don’t think because of my mate, but because of the concept of marriage.
I guess basically my theory is the only reason two people should ever get married is if they can’t live without each other or they want to spend the rest of their life looking at that particular face. I have a thing with faces. I believe there are many meanings behind the shapes of someone’s eyes, their smile and the way they look longingly into your soul. You can see so much when you take a peek, you know that deep look where you look past the surface and you see so much more than just the obvious?
I have lived long enough to know that true love does take a lifetime and to find a mate that is compatible in a social and living environment is difficult. So at a certain point a woman must do the plus and minus checks and so must a man. I wake up each day to find a new moment and I am so thankful for this very life that I have. I try to remember the tragic events that I hear about each day, like the plane that disappeared on the way to Paris this week from Brazil, so I never take my miseries for granted. It just takes my breath away to hear about things like that. One moment up in the sky and the next life is over.
We never know what our future holds. We plan, we dream, we make each step happen carefully or whimsically, depending on our nature, but in the end we cannot predict what will happen to us. So, what is my advice to anyone with a significant other? Wrap it up before you lose them. You may always think there is another someone around the next corner. However, the truth is that is not always the case. Life is not a gamble. Life is what you make happen. “Make something happen.” This was a line in one of my favorite Luanne Rice novels, “Summer Light.” In this novel, the main character is at a crossroads and her friend gives her that simple advice.
Sometimes we must move the dirt beneath us to see the change in the world we want. It does not always come to us and the next best option might be taken. In a society where text messaging and social networking have truly changed the way we live, one must remember to be thankful for those that love you and care so deeply for your soul. One must never take for granted those that might be right in front us. They could be the one!
Ask me, I know. After all, your best friend can’t always be the same sex, like a “Sex in the City” episode with Carrie Bradshaw and her best friends. Sometimes “Mr.
Big” is the reason we try a bit harder, look prettier and hope that we might just capture that prince’s heart. And, in the end that is exactly what this fictional character does, too.
Life is not about happily ever after. It’s about having the courage to follow your heart and believe in miracles. Be thankful for those that love you. I know I tend to have that sappy Hallmark greeting card approach to writing, but someone has got to do it. Promote love, faith and sweetness. Be good and watch this world open its arms to now and your future.
Around town
On June 2, the Red Sox won the Rancho Santa Fe Little League Championship against the Yankees team. How exciting to see the smiles on the faces of those boys. Congratulations to all of the boys who worked hard and played ball this school year. The Yankees team celebrated the season with a trophy ceremony as well. How exciting for all of the parents there to see their boys beaming with pride.
On June 9, The Shangri Pa charity event finally arrived. Helen Woodward raised more than $385,000 dollars, which goes to help saving many animals’ lives and enriching the lives of children that need help through their successful animal therapy program. The volunteers arrived early that Saturday morning to set up all day for this black tie affair. When guests arrived, they enjoyed bidding on a fabulous silent auction, a live auction, plus sampling food from 22 of San Diego’s finest restaurants. Then the guests danced ‘till midnight under the stars at the Fairbanks Plaza.
Julie Watkins, Renee Resko, Katie Shull and Laurel McCrink were all in charge of making this wonderful event possible.
My highlight of the night was running into Natalie Shull. She also volunteered all day for this event. Now this was definitely a night to remember for me and all of the guests that attended.
Later that evening, I ran into Shanna Pizzino and James McCoy at Flight restaurant. If you haven’t heard the news, let me be the first to tell you. Flight the new name of Pasquale’s/Steve Finley Lounge. Think fun dancing and hip up-to-date disco music here.
If you are looking for a place close to the Ranch, this is about as good as it gets! Thanks for letting me snap this quick photo at Flight.
On June 7, well-known realtor Elaine Gallagher shared with me the fabulous news that her son Michael Gallagher is a hit sensation on You Tube. His comedy sketch, “Blame it on the Economy” has had more than 1 million views. If you would like to check out his Internet show, go to www.totallysketch.com. How exciting to have a celebrity here in town. Thanks for keeping me in the loop Elaine.
On June 9, one of my favorite women walking the planet, Patricia Saverese, shared this news around town with me: Pat Hemingway-Savarese, owner of Phoenix Pro
Public Relations, was invited to accompany Mrs. Charles Whittingham to Hollywood Park Race Track on June 6, for the Running of the Charles Whittingham Memorial Handicap in honor of her deceased husband. Charles Whittingham and rider William Shoemaker were an unbeatable team. Charles Whittingham, aptly nicknamed “The Bald Eagle,” was a leading money winning trainer in Thoroughbred Racing for many years. His death was an end to an era. “The Whittingham family and I have been friends for 40 years and it was my honor to accompany Peggy to this prestigious event,” Savarese said. Mrs. Whittingham was also joined by her daughter Charlene, son-in-law and thoroughbred veterinarian Helmuth Von Blucher, grand daughter Ilona and great grand daughter Charlie, who is named after her legendary greatgrand father.”
I am getting married in the month of July. I have had many different emotions about this event. I have had moments where I have wondered about the overall idea of marriage and if this is the right thing. Don’t think because of my mate, but because of the concept of marriage.
I guess basically my theory is the only reason two people should ever get married is if they can’t live without each other or they want to spend the rest of their life looking at that particular face. I have a thing with faces. I believe there are many meanings behind the shapes of someone’s eyes, their smile and the way they look longingly into your soul. You can see so much when you take a peek, you know that deep look where you look past the surface and you see so much more than just the obvious?
I have lived long enough to know that true love does take a lifetime and to find a mate that is compatible in a social and living environment is difficult. So at a certain point a woman must do the plus and minus checks and so must a man. I wake up each day to find a new moment and I am so thankful for this very life that I have. I try to remember the tragic events that I hear about each day, like the plane that disappeared on the way to Paris this week from Brazil, so I never take my miseries for granted. It just takes my breath away to hear about things like that. One moment up in the sky and the next life is over.
We never know what our future holds. We plan, we dream, we make each step happen carefully or whimsically, depending on our nature, but in the end we cannot predict what will happen to us. So, what is my advice to anyone with a significant other? Wrap it up before you lose them. You may always think there is another someone around the next corner. However, the truth is that is not always the case. Life is not a gamble. Life is what you make happen. “Make something happen.” This was a line in one of my favorite Luanne Rice novels, “Summer Light.” In this novel, the main character is at a crossroads and her friend gives her that simple advice.
Sometimes we must move the dirt beneath us to see the change in the world we want. It does not always come to us and the next best option might be taken. In a society where text messaging and social networking have truly changed the way we live, one must remember to be thankful for those that love you and care so deeply for your soul. One must never take for granted those that might be right in front us. They could be the one!
Ask me, I know. After all, your best friend can’t always be the same sex, like a “Sex in the City” episode with Carrie Bradshaw and her best friends. Sometimes “Mr.
Big” is the reason we try a bit harder, look prettier and hope that we might just capture that prince’s heart. And, in the end that is exactly what this fictional character does, too.
Life is not about happily ever after. It’s about having the courage to follow your heart and believe in miracles. Be thankful for those that love you. I know I tend to have that sappy Hallmark greeting card approach to writing, but someone has got to do it. Promote love, faith and sweetness. Be good and watch this world open its arms to now and your future.
Around town
On June 2, the Red Sox won the Rancho Santa Fe Little League Championship against the Yankees team. How exciting to see the smiles on the faces of those boys. Congratulations to all of the boys who worked hard and played ball this school year. The Yankees team celebrated the season with a trophy ceremony as well. How exciting for all of the parents there to see their boys beaming with pride.
On June 9, The Shangri Pa charity event finally arrived. Helen Woodward raised more than $385,000 dollars, which goes to help saving many animals’ lives and enriching the lives of children that need help through their successful animal therapy program. The volunteers arrived early that Saturday morning to set up all day for this black tie affair. When guests arrived, they enjoyed bidding on a fabulous silent auction, a live auction, plus sampling food from 22 of San Diego’s finest restaurants. Then the guests danced ‘till midnight under the stars at the Fairbanks Plaza.
Julie Watkins, Renee Resko, Katie Shull and Laurel McCrink were all in charge of making this wonderful event possible.
My highlight of the night was running into Natalie Shull. She also volunteered all day for this event. Now this was definitely a night to remember for me and all of the guests that attended.
Later that evening, I ran into Shanna Pizzino and James McCoy at Flight restaurant. If you haven’t heard the news, let me be the first to tell you. Flight the new name of Pasquale’s/Steve Finley Lounge. Think fun dancing and hip up-to-date disco music here.
If you are looking for a place close to the Ranch, this is about as good as it gets! Thanks for letting me snap this quick photo at Flight.
On June 7, well-known realtor Elaine Gallagher shared with me the fabulous news that her son Michael Gallagher is a hit sensation on You Tube. His comedy sketch, “Blame it on the Economy” has had more than 1 million views. If you would like to check out his Internet show, go to www.totallysketch.com. How exciting to have a celebrity here in town. Thanks for keeping me in the loop Elaine.
On June 9, one of my favorite women walking the planet, Patricia Saverese, shared this news around town with me: Pat Hemingway-Savarese, owner of Phoenix Pro
Public Relations, was invited to accompany Mrs. Charles Whittingham to Hollywood Park Race Track on June 6, for the Running of the Charles Whittingham Memorial Handicap in honor of her deceased husband. Charles Whittingham and rider William Shoemaker were an unbeatable team. Charles Whittingham, aptly nicknamed “The Bald Eagle,” was a leading money winning trainer in Thoroughbred Racing for many years. His death was an end to an era. “The Whittingham family and I have been friends for 40 years and it was my honor to accompany Peggy to this prestigious event,” Savarese said. Mrs. Whittingham was also joined by her daughter Charlene, son-in-law and thoroughbred veterinarian Helmuth Von Blucher, grand daughter Ilona and great grand daughter Charlie, who is named after her legendary greatgrand father.”
For more information, contact Pat Hemingway-Savarese, Phoenix Pro Public Relations, at (760) 505-0063 or poenixpromote@yahoo.com. Thanks Patricia for sharing this story with me. All of the racetrack lovers around here will appreciate that story.
On June 10, I attended the Delicias Realtor pitch session. The last few weeks have been more encouraging regarding the real estate market. Homes are selling in the Ranch and peoples are starting to take advantage of the low market prices. Michael Citron shared with me a limerick he wrote and delivered for that Wednesday. Here are his creative words.
There once was a home on Santa Victoria
It is ready for a family to say “I adore ya,”
With a pool, spa and bbq station
It will, for sure, bring your buyers to elation.
Come today, from 1 to 4, for Open House preview, Broker Tour.
I will greet you at the door and show you that this home really has more.
We’ve got over 2,800 square feet and although I’m not serving anything to eat,
I’m giving away $2 bills as a treat
I’ll see you today at Santa Victoria and have you leave with financial euphoria.” Thanks Michael for sharing this with my column. And, thank goodness, the economy is starting come back in Rancho Santa Fe!For more information, contact Pat Hemingway-Savarese, Phoenix Pro Public Relations, at (760) 505-0063 or poenixpromote@yahoo.com. Thanks Patricia for sharing this story with me. All of the racetrack lovers around here will appreciate that story.
On June 10, I attended the Delicias Realtor pitch session. The last few weeks have been more encouraging regarding the real estate market. Homes are selling in the Ranch and peoples are starting to take advantage of the low market prices. Michael Citron shared with me a limerick he wrote and delivered for that Wednesday. Here are his creative words.
There once was a home on Santa Victoria
It is ready for a family to say “I adore ya,”
With a pool, spa and bbq station
It will, for sure, bring your buyers to elation.
Come today, from 1 to 4, for Open House preview, Broker Tour.
I will greet you at the door and show you that this home really has more.
We’ve got over 2,800 square feet and although I’m not serving anything to eat,
I’m giving away $2 bills as a treat
I’ll see you today at Santa Victoria and have you leave with financial euphoria.” Thanks Michael for sharing this with my column. And, thank goodness, the economy is starting come back in Rancho Santa Fe!
Up Late
I miss writing in the dark. There was a time when I live alone, and when I did, I had many sleepless nights. I’m more of a night owl by nature. However, lately I really have been into my mornings. My pressing coffee before work, the drive, Lady GAGA blasting on the radio and seeing the ocean early in the morning. A lot has happened to me in the two years. Mainly time. You know that one thing that no one can control. I’ve always enjoyed Einstein’s theory’s on time…how the past and the present and the now exist somewhere in the universe. I tend to like those sort of zany out there thoughts. I tend to have a side of me I miss.
Lately I have been into my writing, my love and my son. My friends are wonderful and beautiful, but alas there is a moment where life becomes a different chapter and we move to other spaces. I have this part of me that tends to hold the past with me, like if I do, there is something more for me in the future. This week I have been moving. Sometimes we must make sacrifices for the one’s we love and that is where I am right now. I am remember how I am here and what my next journey is down the road.
Life goes full circle you know. It does…Ask me, I know. There are moments when the sun hits my face and I can remember splices of hay fields in the back of my mind. I can remember what it was like to live in a rural town in Missouri. I remember a journey of a young girl chasing her dreams across the country. And, now I am here with this future that I have created from all of the moments made up into one.
I am getting married this summer. I just wrote about it in the paper. My column is like that. I think it’s important to be utterly real somewhere in this life, and mine just happens to come in the form of writing. My writing is more from the heart, a bit sappy and yet there is a realist side to me that I display when life wears down on me at times. I am finding the most important thing about love is to let someone go if you love them and if they are yours they stay with you. You cannot keep what you do not have. I don’t care to explain that, rather stating is enough. I am at heart a free spirit that would rather roam the world with a knapsack and leave the Ranch behind. Yet, my journey has brought me to this wonderful town that I have grown to love on my own terms. I must confess that I am really an outsider peering in. However, this is this thing I have with the Inn. That beautiful hotel that sits in the middle of it all. I don’t know where else I could go, watch children play and enjoy the listless clouds hanging low while the sun sets off in the distance. I cherish my time with my friends and I just love to swap our gossip with our own lives and find out just our nutty women can really be. Of course, I am included in on this.
If you really must know, I am a die hard romantic. I believe in that kind of love that bonds two souls together forever and even if circumstances separate them, their souls will always long for the other. I believe in that kind of ‘zen love’ that’s sort of hippy sounding, yet pretty basic. I believe in good moral values, basic universial truths and the fact that, “You can’t win them all and don’t be surprised if the world hates you even when you are nice.” I don’t believe in competing with your loved ones or friends. I believe in promoting and making others feel more at peace in their lives. I have my own demons to slay at times and it’s really more of my own restless soul that misses wondering around the planet, since I am so tied to Southern California. Sometimes at night, I dream of Canada. I do. I go there and it’s the most beautiful place. I don’t know why I am referencing this at the moment other than the fact I am rambling a bit because I can.
I do not know how to make my way back to my childhood. I do not know how to keep what I have lost a long the way. And at times the best thing to do is to let go of what was really never yours in the first place. Another thought that needs no explanation, rather than, maybe keeping it to myself.
I figure at this point, I might as well write openly here on my page.
Up late and reaching out to you. Life is good. Dream, Dream, work hard, be good to those that cherish you and nice to those you do not like. “Niceties make up for a lot of wrong doings.” Ask me, I know.
…ahhh, no explanations on that either.
Goodnight.
m
Why Jillian Harris Rocks as the Bachelorette
What sets Jillian Harris apart and why she won this role on ABC’s hottest reality show is why??
Because she is true blue, good to the bone and has a heart. How refreshing to see a ‘down to earth’ beautiful vivacious girl instead of the stereo typical wannabes. Jillian isn’t afraid to be tough, to show her heart or be brutally honest. I predict Kip to be one of the top guys. I think Juan received a bad rep from some jealous younger guys intimidated by good-looking 30 year old. Wes is definitely there for the wrong reasons and I hope Jillian actually finds happiness with someone. Even if she doesn’t, she has at least touched my heart here in San Diego. Good luck, believe and I can’t wait to see the final rose. At this point the only one that seems genuine is Kipton from Encinitas, CA.
Next week looks like a cliffhanger…Could it be that one cowboy might be singing his last song? I wonder what the dialogue is between Molly and Jason as they tune in each Monday to watch Jillian light up the screen. And, we’ll never know if Molly regretted accepting the switcharoo knowing she could have these hot 30 men. MMMM. I’m thinking, yes, maybe regret might be hiding in the corners of her Monday nights with Jason.
Jillian, go get your man and invite me to Canada!
m
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Friends
I am going to begin blogging again. Oh how I missed this space. It’s necessary for me to write everyday really, even if it’s just processing the thoughts kind of thing. Today has been an interesting day. I guess I can just be straight forward: I like straightforward people.
I find it interesting how time has the capacity to change so much in a short span. What most must accept are the growing pains, the changes are just all part of the process. I am speaking of myself of course. Recently, I have experienced some shifts in many relationships in my life and it’s like this: That Friend’s show? Well, it’s for one chapter, one chapter where all of them balance out their singleness and then it ends when the relationships begin to take over. I am writing about this because I see that is a necessary journey. Robin has experienced this, too. Where some of his very best friends have pulled away since we have been in a relationship. I guess it to happen to me has been more of a gradual thing. It’s like this: I love to meet knew people, love friends and I like to make more friends, Yet, there is a nostalgic side of me that clings to the old. The way things were, like last summer when I had this one group of girlie girls that always hung out once a week. It was like something I could count on in life, sort of the closest I’ve ever felt to how those girls feel in Sex in the City. Women need each other. There is something women bring to the table that a man can never sustain. An understanding on a deep level of our own sex type of thing. There is a chance for women to bond and to be bold and beautiful. I am one of those rare oddities of a woman that actually gravitates to more beautiful women. I don’t care if I’m the best looking one, and I don’t care if I’m the most successful, I just love all different sorts of relationships. You could ask R how on a daily basis I process my friendships mentally and it’s like an on going script I am writing…
Yet, There are those special moments, the golden times when the light does go out. You move from Hollywood to a Eucalyptus Grove, or you leave a state that held your heart. I am here now telling you that at the end of the day, I want all my lovely friends to be blissful, successful and sweet. I open my heart to their successes and I want them to climb every mountain top they can. I don’t like the type of people that try and compete and compare and think who has what the best and oh I’ve got more than her type thing. And, the good news most of my inner group of friends are not like that I just described.
It rained today. Not a poetic sentence, yet that was the highlight of my day! Little chunks of hail fell from the sky over Rancho Santa Fe while I waited inside at the Market Deli after a meeting with a client. I heard the thunder clouds roll in and the lightening strike. How absolutely positively fabulous. Memories from my childhood flashed before me and there was a moment when I remembered what it was like to count the seconds after seeing that flash of lightening.
Yes, that was off the path of the friend thing, but I had to at least acknowledge how this gray weather brings me boundless peace and joy. How chatting with an old friend today was like eating hot chicken soup, how there are gaps and pauses, but some friends span a lifetime.
I don’t know where I am going with this, other I want to convey to you that girls need girls as friends and I just love all my girlfriends to pieces, even if we don’t see each other as much. Even if, this life shifts, I am still here with my heart full of gratitude.
m
Sappy Hallmark Greeting Card Approach to writing
I am getting married in the month of July. I have had many different emotions behind this event. I have had moments where I have wondered about the overall ‘idea of marriage’ and if this is the right thing. Don’t think because of my mate, but think because of the ‘concept of marriage’.
I guess basically my theory is the only reason two people should ever get married is if they can’t live without each other or if you want to spend the rest of your life looking at that particular face. I have a thing with faces…I believe there are many meanings behind the shapes of someones eyes, their smile and the way they look longingly into your soul. You can see so much when you take a peek, you know that deep look where you look past the surface and you see so much more than just the obvious.
The obvious? What can be obvious to others and to yourself might not necessarily match. I have had to deal with a high level of scrutiny with my relationship with R because of our different age brackets and the thoughts of our core friends that surround us.
I have felt rather genuinely hurt overall by the lack of support and love from those I surround myself with, however, that can be ‘par for course in life’. “Don’t be surprised if the world hates you and have the courage to follow your own heart without wondering if it matches up with the rest of the crowd surrounding you.”
I have lived long enough to know that true love does take a life time and to find a mate that is compatible in a social and living environment is hard to find. So at a certain point a woman must do the ‘plus and minus checks’ and so must a man. I wake up each day to find a new moment to find and I am so thankful for this very life that I have. I try to remember the tragic events that I hear each day, so I never take my miseries for granted…like the plane that disappeared on the way to Paris this week from Brazil. Just takes my breath away to read or hear about things like that. One moment up in the sky and the next life is over. We never know sometimes what our future holds. We plan, we dream, we make each step happen carefully or whimsically, depending on your nature but in the end we cannot predict what will happen to us.
With that said, I am so thankful for all of my gorgeous friends that have made my life so much fun up until this point. Life is not over just because I am taking the plunge in ‘I do’ one more time. No.
Rather, life is just beginning again for me and for all of those that I know. The next step is to jump. Not all have the courage to jump, but my advice to anyone with a significant other, wrap it up before you lose them.
You may always think there is another someone or something around the next corner. But the truth is that is not really the case in life. Life is not a gamble. Life is what you make happen. Make your life happen. “Make something happen.” This was a line in one of my favorite Luanne Rice novel, when a character is speaking to a good friend during a down time and this was such perfect advice. Sometimes we must move the dirt beneath us to see the change in the world we want. It does not always come to us and there is not always the ‘next best option’. In a society where text messaging and social networking has truly changed the way we live, one must remember to be thankful for those that love you and care so deeply for your soul. One must never take for granted those that need you. To be needed is the best of all and to give is my absolute joy in life.
Someone recently said to me, “You know there is no happy ending and the prince doesn’t rescue us.”
I looked them square in the eye and politely said: “You are wrong, Robin has rescued me…at least temporarily from myself.” What a blessing to love someone more than my own needs. What a blessing to try and change and be a better person for someone that I love. True love is about giving unconditionally during hard times and bad. There is no exit when things get tough, you must choose to ‘hang in’ because love is worth it in the end. Love is the only answer to every unanswered dream in your heart. I feel so incredibly grateful to have loved so much in my life.
And, this next moment is but a small step to acknowledge one person that sent flowers to me on one of the saddest ‘Summer Days’ of my life. One man had the insight to know my heart would be breaking when a sister departed from California. And, that day the white orchid arrived, I hadn’t even started dating R, but I knew this would be the man I would marry. I knew this man understood the core of my soul when we had only just begun to become good friends. After all, your best friend can’t always be the same sex, like a Sex in the City episode. Sometimes “Mr. Big” is the reason we try a bit harder, look prettier and hope that we might just capture that prince’s heart.
My advice to all of you jaded lovers out there. Rent “Enchanted.” Just loved this modern day fairytale about sweet innocence in a world that sometimes would like to think only happened in ‘story book endings’. Life is not about ‘happily ever after’. It’s about having the courage to follow your heart and believe in miracles. It’s about having faith in this life after the worst possible things can happen to us. It’s simply having hope that this life is worth living. It is. It is, It is.
Be thankful for those that love you and try so hard to give more than you did tomorrow. I know I tend to have that ‘sappy Hallmark’ greeting card approach to writing, but someone has got to do it.
Promote love, faith and sweetness. Be good and watch this world have open arms to now and your future.
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